Have you ever overcommitted yourself?
A few days ago, I was having a conversation with a friend who was sharing with me the long list of things that she had to do. Have you ever had one of those days, weeks, or months when you have so many commitments and you wonder how in the world will you get it all done?
I asked her, “What will you do for you?”
Her response was all too familiar. It was the same response that I used to tell myself all the time, and one that I hear so often from my clients, friends, and acquaintances.
It sounded something like this: “I just do not have the time. I am a woman of my word. Once I say that I am going to do something, I am committed to showing up. People are counting on me.”
Hold up, wait a minute!
If this sounds like your life story, lean in closely.
Every time that you say that you do not have time to take care of you, you are sending yourself the message that you are not worthy and that you do not deserve to be taken care of. This is not true.
You are worthy of good health and much happiness. You deserve to live your best life.
When we as women choose to be the super hero for everyone else, we are depleting our inner power at its core. If we truly want to rescue others, we must first rescue ourselves.
How would your life change if you created a loving, trusting relationship with you? What if you decided to give yourself a fraction of the commitment that you give to others? How would you feel? How would your life be different?
Your relationship with you is the only one that you can count on for this lifetime.
When you promise yourself that you are going to do something for you – whether it be exercise, eat healthier, get more sleep, drink more water, go to that class, meditate, spend time in nature, save money, declutter – and you do not follow through with what you say, you are breaking your trust with YOU!
Think about that for a moment. TRUST is the foundation to any healthy relationship. Can your body trust you to take care of it? Can your mind trust you to fill it with loving thoughts? When was the last time that you took the time to connect with you?
Like any relationship that needs work, start by being honest with yourself. You have been so busy for so long that you are numb to what you need. Being busy can be an addiction. Addictions numb us from our true feelings.
Three ways to start repairing your relationship with you:
1. Give yourself permission to commit to loving and taking better care of you. Take a few moments to write out all the ways that you can trust, love, and take better care of you.
2. Invest your time and energy into you like you would any new relationship. Commit to spending quality time with you daily. Start with just setting aside a few minutes each day to spend with you without any distractions.
3. Ask yourself, What can I do today to start making me my priority? Rebuild your trust with you by taking action.
When you commit to loving and trusting you, you attract loving, trusting people and experiences into your space. Take care of your inner world and your outer world will fall into place in a beautiful way!
Keema Perry is the founder of Powerhouse Academy. She is the go-to-guide for women over 40 who feel overworked, overstretched and overwhelmed. She helps women to stress less, relax more, make time for themselves, and start creating the life that they desire to live. You can learn more about Powerhouse Academy by visiting her website and following her on Instagram and Facebook.