I never thought I’d hear myself say this, but I am starting to hate social media. I remember when having a rising Klout score mattered. And the exhilaration I experienced when I reached 5,000 “friends” on Facebook years ago—whoo hoo. I had arrived! Or so I thought. Because at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter when it boils down to who one is as an authentic person.
Recently, I have been reading articles on young females who take thousands of selfies with the aim of landing “that” shot. Hours and hundreds, and sometimes thousands of dollars spent. For what? An optical illusion!
Many people love a good pic, don’t get me wrong, but what’s been driving me up a smooth wall these days is the amount of emotion people conjure up when it comes to statuses and posts.
Let me give you a recent example.
A few weeks ago, a friend of mine (well I considered her one) inboxed me to tell me that she saw a post made by an ex-associate on a social media platform and thought that it was directed at me. I told her that I had no clue, had not seen it and honestly had no desire to.
Because the person and I hadn’t spoken in over six months, I would see no reason for him to be posting about me all this time later. And if he was, I told her, that was none of my business since he took up zero head space over here.
Ironically, just moments later, I received another inbox, from a friend who was basically along the same line. In his case, I chose not to respond personally but decided instead to compose a Facebook post.
Gosh..growth is a beautiful thing. People really need to get the memo.
I’m not interested in drama, I’m not interested in the past, I’m not interested in what whoever has to say about someone else…or me. I’m not interested in what an ex is doing, who they with or what they talking about.
If you ain’t on a positive vibe tip, I’m really not interested in what you have to say and will ignore you.
Well, as life would have it, the person who it was intended for didn’t get the memo and the person it wasn’t, did.
What made me believe that? Firstly, a ‘shady’ post, but I decided not to take it on because I do not like to operate in assumption mode. But secondly, a few days later I bump into her and I am met with a frosty greeting.
I was going to say something to her, but I refused. Why? Because to be fair, I was like her once in the not too long ago past. I felt someone was throwing shade directed at me, and without hesitation, I copped an attitude. But when I look back, I have to ask myself, “Was it really or was it just my imagination?”
I wouldn’t know because I deleted the person without asking a question. Amazing how social media sometimes makes us hear things in our heads which may not really exist!
Social media causes arguments, kills relationships, creates enemies, creates paranoia. Do I need to go on?
How many times have you allowed it to misconstrue your thoughts. We are all guilty of it. And we can all play a role in stopping the negativity.
Let’s commit to ask questions, seek resolutions and most importantly, TALK to each other instead of letting our keyboards do it for us.
You are loved.